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Formula

A friend has told me several times recently that there are formulas for picking up women. Here’s mine:
The formula for love is found in the heart.  Every other formula comes from the head.  You can manipulate people into relationship, but that’s not love.  What is the end result you want?  If you want true love listen to your heart and use your head to communicate it’s wisdom.

 

Responsibility

I would imagine the word responsibility invokes different images for people. We’ve all had a variety of experiences around responsibility. Most often responsibility makes me think of things I need to do or things outside of myself that I need to take care of. To act responsible.

We can use responsibility as a defense. To be overly responsible. Take on responsibility that isn’t healthy. As in trying to be responsible for other people’s reactions. Modifying your behavior so that other people won’t feel uncomfortable or angry. Your defense in response to trying to avoid someone else’s defense.

When things aren’t working out so well with all this defense going on we generally start the problem solving by pointing the finger outside ourselves. They ……, we can fill in the blanks with so many things. They just don’t get it. Ahem, ok go ahead get it out of your system. Unless you’re a saint we both know we are both going to travel down that blame path a bit. Sometimes a lot. We’ll rally our friends around us and they will conspire with us about how wonderful we are and how pathetic or awful “the other” is behaving. We are licking our wounds in hopes of healing them. In reality we are keeping them open and festered. Get the picture?

Let’s go back to responsibility. Responsibility to self. That’s right, point those fingers at yourself. This doesn’t have to be punishing. I know you wanted to punish the other. So now you might think you need to punish yourself. NO! Don’t go there. Take a deep breath and let it out. Do that several times and as you release your breath allow the tension to melt away as much as you can.

This isn’t about punishment. It isn’t about being bad. It’s about learned responses. Oh now isn’t that better. Learned responses. Kinda ties into responsibility pretty nice.

I’m not done with this topic, but right now I’m going to shift the laundry around and go out an enjoy this beautiful day a bit. I deserve it. I am responsible for my own joy. Yep, no one can take it away but me. See you soon.

If you need to talk to someone about your own responsibility issues feel free to call me for an appointment.

In Love,
Susan
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Fearless

Parents often think that they are here to guide the little ones. When – in
reality – the little ones come forth with clarity to guide you.

— Abraham

I must say I wish when I was raising my children I knew then what I know now. We have to trust we are all on this journey together for a reason. Learning and sharing our experiences. Learning to trust our inner wisdom.

Children are so fearless until adults teach them to fear. Here we are as adults reaching for our child like trust and courage. Let’s go for it!

Bunny Release

Friday evening I herded three bunnies out the studio door.  It was fun to watch them hop out the door to enjoy their freedom.  Bunny #4, the wild child of the bunch, did not receive a personal escort.  He was no where to be found.  I went as far as taking books off the shelf to see if he got stuck behind them.  Didn’t find him there.  I did discover they had been on top of the books using them as, uhem, the library.  Not sure how much reading was happening there.  Certainly plenty of bunny droppings.

They may have absorb some knowledge amongst the books, so I will claim to have released educated bunnies into the world.

I left the door open to the studio and hope the Wild Child found his freedom.  Clean up in the studio will start shortly.  I hope I don’t find him there.

I haven’t seen any signs of the released bunnies, which is really a good thing.  They are masters at hiding.  I understand why they work so well with magicians.  They can disappear on their own.

I enjoyed my bunny rescue experience.  No empty nest syndrome.  Their good health and freedom give me joy to have been a part of it.

In Joy,

Susan

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Forgiving

I felt a bit stressed over the last day because Bunny #4 has been missing.  The “black sheep” of the family that keeps going over the wall.  The wild child of the bunch.  I had finally come to the conclusion that I was going to stop trying to put him back in and just let him run the studio.  I had been putting food out for him.  Suddenly it wasn’t disappearing.  Over a good day or day and a half I searched for him.

Tonight I decided to clean the pen a bit better and do a better head count.  I found him stuck in the bi-fold door.  Ugh…I blame myself because I looked at the set up and knew it was a hazard.  I fixed it tonight.  No more stuck bunnies and I don’t think he can escape anymore.  Knock on wood.  Which could be my head about now.

The whole incident made me think about how forgiving life truly is.  We aren’t perfect and yet we survive.  Even better we manage to bring children into the world and they survive in spite of our imperfections and mistakes.  That bunny was strong and flexible.  He was well wedged in that door.

How often did we as children get into tight situations or do something crazy.  I remember my son locking himself in my car when he was little.  He couldn’t get out, I couldn’t find him because he fell asleep and didn’t hear me calling him.  OMG, I was frightened.  They survive in spite of us.  We survive in spite of us.  Even as adults we get ourselves in tight situations.  That’s a good reason to stay flexible and learn to laugh at ourselves.

We wake up and have another day and another opportunity.

I’m grateful that life doesn’t depend on my perfection.  I guess we truly are perfectly imperfect.

Four bunnies safe for tonight.  Clean, well fed and out of the rain tonight.  I’ll sleep well.

Good night.

In Joy,

Susan

 

Bunnie Playpen

Allowing the bunnies to run around the studio is not such a great idea.  Earlier this week I didn’t get to bed to about 1:00am because I couldn’t catch one little guy.  I finally laid down on my massage table and napped a bit.  While I did that he came out and settled close to the container I was keeping the little guys in.  He still wasn’t happy with being scooped up.

Devised a space using a book case and a few closet doors I happened to have in storage.  Added a few hiding spots so they feel secure.

Today we had two escapes.  My son, Adam found one running around the studio and one trapped in a tight spot.  He did a great job rescuing both.  Security has been tightened!  The bunnie that was trapped in a tight spot was a bit tramatized.  I did a little healing work on him, then we both napped on the bio-mat.  Looks like all is well.

I’m out to have a last peek at them for the night and warm up their hot water bottle for a cozy night.

Growing Up

Day 10 of bunny care.  They are growing and thriving.  Sorry I can’t post the pictures here.  Having some technical difficulty with uploading my pictures all of a sudden.

The little guys are becoming more curious about what else is out there.  They don’t get so sleepy now.  Decided to give them some running room.  Securing the studio and after I fed each one I let them down to see what they would do.  Each one scampered off and found a spot to hang out.  They all looked for a place where they felt secure.

When I gathered them back up I held them a little and offered them a little more to eat.  They were a little more jumpy and nervous when I put tucked them into their box for the night.  The greens are disappearing faster.  My babies are growing up.

Bunnies-1 week

As of today the 4 bunnies have been under my care for a week. They have developed a trust of me and the nourishment I am offering them.  I am grateful for the love that has touched my heart in caring for them.  It is truly an example of giving is receiving.

One week has make a big difference in their growth and activity level.  Again it reminds me of raising my children.  As they grow and develop you have to shift with them.  Their needs change.  There are two bunnies that are much more daring and active.  They get fed first because when I put my hand in they are the first to get on my hand.  From my perspective it’s good to get them nourished and settled down.  While feeding them I feel a bit like I’m juggling.  One is eating and the other may be poking around.  I have to be on the alert one doesn’t fall off our perch in the rocking chair.

The other amusing part is when they both want to eat at the same time.  They keep pushing themselves to the dropper.  It ends up working out fine and then they both quiet down and snuggle in.  Then it’s time to pick up the other two.  These two are calmer and slower eaters.

One of the more energetic ones likes to push themselves into tight places.  After eating she will go under the towel and push against my arm until she is snug tight.  This morning she found the sleeve of my robe and crawled up almost to my elbow.  Funny, I knew she was safe while the others ate.  I just had to be gentle when it came to extracting her to put her back.

I’m glad to see their instincts are in place to hide.  I have no problem picking them up, but they are more relaxed and comfortable when snuggling together and being under some cover.  When they are old enough the plan is to find a good place to release them where they have plenty of hiding places.

 

 

 

Bunny Update Day6

Morning. Getting up at 5am has not been an issue. I usually wake before my alarm and get up easily to go hold and feed the four bunnies. Motherhood all over again. Actually I think I’m better at it now, LOL. Experience has helped a lot.

This morning the bunnies didn’t seem as interested in eating. Last night they ate more than usual so maybe they were still pretty satisfied. They quickly nesiled into me an fell asleep. It’s so peaceful and warm. Except for the fact that I have four, tiny, furry bodies it isn’t much different then when I held my own children as infants.

If I had a lazy boy out in the studio I think I would sleep out there all night with them. I’ve had to pad the rocking chair I am using with pillows to make myself comfortable.

Just like with my children it’s hard to put them down and walk away. My bunny children will be growing up much quicker. I have started to put a few greens in for them to lick and nibble. Their teeth are starting to come in. It’s a little early, but I think they enjoy exploring the greens.

I’m grateful for the heart centered energy and contact with these little ones. It reminds me that the universe always provides. Sometimes it comes in forms we aren’t used to. It’s important to keep an open mind and listen with your heart. Thank you.

Baby Bunnie Update

I’ve had the baby bunnies for about 3 days now. I’ve done a little research and figure they are about 10-12 days old. They love to snuggle. I usually hold them for about an hour at a time. Relaxing in my rocking chair with them snuggled from my hand up my forearm depending on much they want to be in a bunny pile. I hope to some pictures here soon. The pictures I took of them yesterday didn’t come out clear.

This morning the smallest one crawled right into my hand looking for something to eat. For the first time he ate a good bit. Most of the time they don’t like the eye dropper and I can only get a few drops of kitten formula in them at a time.

Right now I think they are most thriving on love and a little food. That seems to be enough at the moment. As I sit with them my intention is to embody Mother Bunny energy and nourish them. It seems to be working.

I’ve raised baby bunnies a few other times. It has normally been one at a time and once I raised two. They love being close and snuggling. I’m glad they have each other.

The gift they have offered me is evaluating my feelings of responsibility. The difference between helping and nurturing and feeling completely responsible. It is a distinction that is helpful in many other areas of my life. It is easy to take on too much responsibility. It starts in childhood when we take on responsibility for our parents unhappiness. It doesn’t matter if they are unhappy with us or their own lives. We do what we can to make them feel good for our own survival. Then we can spend the rest of our lives trying to make other people in our lives happy out of habit.

So today is a new level of self responsibility and appreciating that ultimately everyone is responsible for their own lives. We can know these things in our heads, but until we can feel them and experience them they are only concepts. We must embody the lesson.

I’m grateful for the bunnies the universe asked me to assist. It is a win-win relationship.