When I went to the Matrix Energetics workshop last weekend I went with a mental laundry list of items I wanted to focus on improving in my life. Relationship was one of them. In fact I would say relationship was at the core of everything I wanted to address for myself. This included a significant partner, money, my relationship with authority, my own authority, etc.

I felt significant shift for myself while there. Just getting there was a break through. I touched deeper into trusting the universe to answer my prayers. We’ve heard, “ask and it is given,” but do we always really believe it.

I packed my bag early Saturday morning knowing I wanted to stay the weekend in Baltimore at the event, but not really knowing how I was going to financially manage. I ended up sitting next to Kathy. As Saturday progressed we got to know each other better and I couldn’t have planned it better myself. She had a room with two beds and we hit it off great.

The weekend progressed with releasing some old relationship patterns that were no longer serving me. My relationships have improved, but the icing on the cake is I see my son’s relationships improving. If you really want to help your children. Work on your own issues. In this week he has shared three different situations that reflect significant improvement in his life.

If you think spending money on your own healing journey is a waste or too much money, think again. Not only do you benefit, but everyone that you are connected to benefits. That makes the investment rather insignificant.

Have relationship challenges. Give me a call today.

There is nothing useless here.  The universe has put nothing here that doesn’t serve a purpose.  It is our job to discover or allow ourselves to use our gifts and talents.  We all have a part to play.  Put aside the judgment and get curious.  Even those things we label as bad have a purpose.  All challenges and experiences play an important role, even if we don’t understand.  We get disappointed and/or angry.  OK, when you are done with that try moving on to curious.  What do you have to learn?  What is this giving you?  How does it motivate you? What can you learn today?

In Love,

Susan

I see it in your eyes. You are asking me to save you. I can’t.

 

I will stand by your side and be still with you. I will help you to find that deep dark cave within yourself.

 

The cave is filled with riches beyond your wildest imagining. Within the cave your essence resides. Gleaming, glowing, sparkling. You must go deep within yourself to find it there. It is worth more than you can ever earn. It will set you free.

 

Take my hand. Let me show you. We will both dive within ourselves. You don’t have to know the way. Just follow within yourself. Let me light your way.

 

Breath and sink down. See the glow deep within the cave of yourself. Feel it. Breath into it. Allow it to expand. This is your essence. Allow it to expand to every cell of your body and beyond.

 

Create from here.

With an open heart you are never empty handed.

Susan Sat Nam

Being a Harry Potter fan I recently saw the newest release Harry Potter and the Deathly Hollows. The house elf, Dobbie is wonderful.  I would truly enjoy having a house elf live with me. Of course if you are familiar with the Potter books you know that the role of house elf is really one of slavery. As powerful as the little creatures are they don’t have independence and freedom. Unless of course they are given an article of clothing.

I had not given this part any thought when I made my original wish for a house elf. I truly am not looking to enslave any creature. Especially if makes them unhappy and inflicts pain. I think the example would serve us all to examine the dynamics in our relationships.

The relationship between the house elf and it’s master is quite dramatic and clear. I believe most of us would object. Yet it is a mirror worth examining because people have subtle ways of controlling one another and justifying it. We don’t see our own control tactics.

Common reasons people control others:
Fear of losing that person or relationship.
Feelings of lack.
They were taught that relationship style by example.
Fear of being hurt/overpowered.
Getting their needs met.

Common relationship control:
Money is huge. One person has, the other doesn’t. Money becomes the bait to keep the other in relationship. The one who lacks the money is provided for on the condition that they behave in a certain way or fulfill the others desires. There is always the unspoken threat of losing the roof over their head or what ever support is being provided should they displease the one with money.

Does that mean I believe there can’t be a healthy relationship between two people with different economic situations. Money is a symbol of power in our society. I think its a rare situation where money is not being used to control on some level, however subtle.  In the job market many have lost their negotiating power through lack of choice.  It’s this job or possibly none.  Employers have more advantage at this time.  As soon as you have choice, you have negotiating power.

Without knowing much about the program I believe Habitat for Humanity make a great effort to empower the people they assist. The family’s receiving the assistance must contribute to the homes they are receiving. I believe EMPOWERMENT is the key element.

Empowerment builds the other person. It does not control. It allows choice. If I empower you I allow you to take the gift and leave. I allow you the freedom to choose. That choice may not meet my needs. I need to accept that. Empowerment aims to create win-win situations. It allows all parties involved to stand as equals or as a team.  Every team has and needs a leader, but leading does not mean standing over another.  The job of the leader is to build a team.  Working side by side toward a common goal.  In fact there is a quote that I am unable at the moment to locate that states, “a leader will follow and provide for based on the others needs.”

In looking at all of this I realize there are house elves to be had. They come in the form of people who clean homes for a living, bookkeepers, personal assistants, lawn care people, body guards, and any number of services you may be needing.  The exchange is money.  Each party having the freedom to enter or leave the relationship.

I guess I was really wishing to have help with my work load.

I am adjusting my wish.  I would like to have the means to exchange with a number of people in equally satisfying relationships to help me get certain jobs done so that I have more time to do the things I really love to do.  That is a much longer explanation for a house elf, but it’s worth it.  I appreciate realizing what the house elf symbolized to me.  It represents my own freedom and joy.

I wish everyone empowered relationships where their needs are met.

In Love,




The most precious and valuable gift you can give is yourself.

It’s been a wonderful afternoon and evening.  Let’s just include the whole day in that wonderful.  It’s Friday, my short day at work.  Had my eyes examined, no not my head.  Stopped at Boscov’s and bought a few clothes on sale, yea.  Had dinner with one of my best friends at one of my favorite Tai restaurants.  I’m grateful for spell check because I seem to have a mental block for spelling restaurant correctly.  Then we saw the movie Eat, Pray, Love and it was great.  I saw a 2-1/2 star rating on it today and think that was from an unenlightened person.  Some comment about the movie being about a self absorbed woman.  Well, I’m thinking they just don’t understand the inner journey.

Life is good.  I appreciate the contrast.  I know I can still enjoy life while I am processing a feeling of lose and heart ache.  My vessel is strong enough to hold both.  I can love and grieve at the same time.  I can appreciate the beauty around me.

It’s all me.

People play roles in our lives, they are actors and we have given them a script. They serve a purpose in our journey.

They may reflect something back that you are thinking or feeling about yourself or a belief you’ve energized.

They may share supportive knowledge, wisdom, or insight with you.

They may set something in motion to support you on your journey.

The link below is the wonderful poem based on this topic set to music and pictures.

People come into your life for a reason.

Robert Scheinfeld’s book Busting Loose from The Money Game is so much more than about money. It really is about your relationship to yourself and seeing the illusion of life for the truth of what it is. It helps you to re-claim your power from the illusion.