There are so many wonderful choices we can make. Sometimes I don’t know in what direction to go. I feel like a kid in a candy store. When I’m not in alignment, when I’m defensive the choices overwhelm me. I feel stuck and unable to move or make a choice. When I get centered I realize it will all come together in perfect timing. I make my choices based on what feels right for me. The right people show up at the right time. I’m inspired. I feel blessed.

The reality is we get off balance, disconnected, defensive and stressed. The good thing is we can do something about it. We have choices. I just realized I’m jumped from “I” to “we.” It’s all the same. When I say “we” I am including myself. Sometimes when people teach we think they have it, as in their life, all together. They’ve mastered life and it flows like some perfect happy stream. That’s not it at all. Effective teaching comes from experience.

There have been so many times when I’ve learned something. I’ve had an ah-ha moment and the same day I’m given the opportunity to share it with someone else. I take my experience and lend a hand to a fellow life traveler. I’m grateful for the opportunity to help others. I feel blessed by the people who show up in my life to help me and for me to help them.

What a gift. Thank you.

An irritant can be transformed into a pearl.  If an oyster can do it, so can I.

Sometimes all we know is that something or someone is irritating us.  We instinctively move to get rid of it by moving away or attacking.  Flight or fight.

An oyster deals with a grain of sand by taking that grain and creating something beautiful.  So the question is how can I transform this irritation into something beautiful?

We can start by asking why is it irritating me?  The initial response is usually finger pointing in the other direction.  We look outside ourselves and blame the other.  We’re human, we tend to do that.  We’ve been trained to do that.  After that let’s turn it around and look within ourselves.  Let’s take responsibility.

This isn’t a black and white world where one size fit’s all.  There’s no rule here on exactly how you need to handle the situation.

For example if the stove is hot move your hand.  If someone is beating you up, get the hell out of there.  There is a whole world full of people.  You don’t have to live with one that doesn’t treat you the way you want to be treated.  The way to the pearl sometimes means you need to leave.  The oyster doesn’t have that option so it creates a substance that smooths the roughness.

How can I smooth the roughness in my situation?  What would feel better? Change most often feels like stepping into a void.  It can feel empty at first and scary.  We have to make a conscious effort to recognize that what is really here is potential.  The void is fertile ground for creation.

It is important to focus on the wonderful potential you have to create.  That irritation was just the motivator you needed to realize you want to create something better.  What is that?  As you ask yourself this question you are inviting the universe to answer.  As you step into the void of unknown you are creating a vacuum to be filled.

Have a beautiful day.

Many of our gifts we have to offer the world emerge from our wounds.  Think of how an oyster creates a pearl because a grain of sand is irritating it.  If an oyster can create beauty from strife than so can we. 

While I was in Atlanta at the Matrix Energetics workshop I started to relate my life experience to Goldilocks. You remember Goldilocks and the 3 Bears. Yea, from the fairytale. Sitting in the different chairs to see which one felt good. Trying the portage and then the beds.

It’s easy to get caught up in what you should be doing or doing XYZ so you can earn a living. Have you asked yourself lately what feels good? What tastes good? Who do you really enjoy being with? What makes your heart and soul sing?
Don’t feel bad if you don’t know. Just start by being curious. You might start by realizing you aren’t feeling good. You just need a place to start. Then you have a scale.

Give yourself permission to not know. Start to discover, allow yourself to feel good, be grateful for it and then just give yourself permission to have more. Even if you don’t know how that could show up.

Let’s change the fairytale though. Let’s not be scared off by the bears coming home. Instead let’s imagine a great celebration on discovering your love and passion. My bear is really happy when I’m happy. You can make the story however it feels good.

Sigh…Rough day today.  Happy to be at home, in my gardens, at my computer with the cat curled up on my lap as I type.  Any where but at the senior center today.  Such a heavy feeling today.  It was challenging to be there.  Had that feeling of wanting to run away.  There was anger around me, turmoil and frustration.

I took a few moments from time to time to acknowledge myself as a powerful creator, creating my experience.  I called my energy back, feeling the energy surge through me.  Centering myself in that power.  Allowing myself to feel my feelings.  It was difficult to observe without judgment today.  I didn’t want to be in this soup so to speak.

I had to ask myself what I could do to change this.  What change do I need to make?  What do I want?

People play roles in our lives, they are actors and we have given them a script. They serve a purpose in our journey.

They may reflect something back that you are thinking or feeling about yourself or a belief you’ve energized.

They may share supportive knowledge, wisdom, or insight with you.

They may set something in motion to support you on your journey.

The link below is the wonderful poem based on this topic set to music and pictures.

People come into your life for a reason.

Robert Scheinfeld’s book Busting Loose from The Money Game is so much more than about money. It really is about your relationship to yourself and seeing the illusion of life for the truth of what it is. It helps you to re-claim your power from the illusion.