I felt resistance when I saw the first post to change my profile picture in hopes of bringing awareness to violense against children. Awareness is always the first step to healing. Denial allows us to look the other way and pretend it doesn’t exist.

When I Googled cartoon pictures I couldn’t initially remember being particularly captivated by any one cartoon. I felt pretty far removed from cartoons and my experience of them. When I caught sight of Tinkerbell I remembered introducing myself to a new friend as Tinkerbell. As I saw other characters show up on Facebook this weekend it made me smile and remember.

I would certainly never choose to relive my childhood. Like many other peope my life wasn’t filled with happy family memories. We had our hidden issues. My Father was an alcholic. That effected many areas of our lives. My Mother did the best she could. I admired her and thought her an amazing woman. She is an amazing, powerful woman.

Something has occurred to me though. I learned to define being a strong, powerful woman by how much pain I was willing to tolerate. Not long ago a friend of mine expressed his own similar view of what a strong, powerful woman was. He described the women in his family as strong because they tolerated poor behavior from their husbands. They put up with it. They lived through it.

I realize I want to redefine what a strong, powerful woman is for myself. A powerful woman is empowered. She is capable of taking care of herself. She is willing to walk away from someone who treats her poorly. She will not allow her children to be subject to abuse. A powerful woman is not there to “fix” her partner. He can only do that for himself. Allowing herself to be treated poorly only reinforces his behavior. All the money and things in the world aren’t worth it.

As a strong, powerful, empowered woman I choose to be in relationships with those that treat me with respect and give from their hearts. I realize I define how relationships show up by how I love myself. I know it takes strength and self love to walk away.

Children don’t have this choice. They must find ways to cope and defend in order to survive. Let’s start by commiting to our own healing. In our healing the consciousness expands. It’s all energy. Healing our own hurts, defenses and pains makes it more accessible for others. We are all connected. Our separation is an illusion.

This is Why We Changed Our Profile Pictures to Cartoons

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mTcz1Q2EYwk

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In Love,

Susan

Relationships aren’t business strategies. While care and planning are important in any relationship if they don’t flow through the heart they end up cold and distant.  It takes courage and strength to live through your heart.  That’s not the same as wearing your heart on your sleeve or being a doormat.  It’s about listening to the wisdom of the heart, then balancing that with the plans in your head.

An irritant can be transformed into a pearl.  If an oyster can do it, so can I.

Sometimes all we know is that something or someone is irritating us.  We instinctively move to get rid of it by moving away or attacking.  Flight or fight.

An oyster deals with a grain of sand by taking that grain and creating something beautiful.  So the question is how can I transform this irritation into something beautiful?

We can start by asking why is it irritating me?  The initial response is usually finger pointing in the other direction.  We look outside ourselves and blame the other.  We’re human, we tend to do that.  We’ve been trained to do that.  After that let’s turn it around and look within ourselves.  Let’s take responsibility.

This isn’t a black and white world where one size fit’s all.  There’s no rule here on exactly how you need to handle the situation.

For example if the stove is hot move your hand.  If someone is beating you up, get the hell out of there.  There is a whole world full of people.  You don’t have to live with one that doesn’t treat you the way you want to be treated.  The way to the pearl sometimes means you need to leave.  The oyster doesn’t have that option so it creates a substance that smooths the roughness.

How can I smooth the roughness in my situation?  What would feel better? Change most often feels like stepping into a void.  It can feel empty at first and scary.  We have to make a conscious effort to recognize that what is really here is potential.  The void is fertile ground for creation.

It is important to focus on the wonderful potential you have to create.  That irritation was just the motivator you needed to realize you want to create something better.  What is that?  As you ask yourself this question you are inviting the universe to answer.  As you step into the void of unknown you are creating a vacuum to be filled.

Have a beautiful day.

Many of our gifts we have to offer the world emerge from our wounds.  Think of how an oyster creates a pearl because a grain of sand is irritating it.  If an oyster can create beauty from strife than so can we. 

I haven’t used this meditation for years.  It popped up tonight as I was walking.  I was trying to make a shift and started asking myself some questions.  Then I got bombarded by questions to a point of frenzy.  I wasn’t in the space or energy for questions to be effective.  Instead the universe reminded me of this meditation.  It wasn’t time for questions.  It was a time for me to get centered and peaceful.

Be still and know that I am god.

As I walked I allowed myself to get quiet and release the need for answers.  I wasn’t receptive to answers.  I was feeling to frantic and upset.  I allowed the phrase to gently repeat in my head.  I started to feel calmer.  After a short time a much clearer level of contemplation was able to come through.  I was able to come home and start writing again.

Breath.

Be still and know that I am god.

Allow it to wash over you.

In Love

An Important Message Check out this link from The Ellen DeGeneeres Show.

Healing starts within ourselves. If we want to heal the world we need to start with ourselves. We can’t make people change. We can help to educate them. Adults just like children learn not by what we say but what we embody. This is what the world around us teaches us. What we see is what we need to heal within ourselves.

Let’s start now. Today ask yourself how am I intolerant. Where am I intolerant? When and how am I a bully? It may seem like outrageous questions. You may feel indignant or appalled to think you may behave this way.  Remember this behavior can be subtle.  We can have behaviors so ingrained they are unconscious to us.  We react and don’t notice our own behavior.

How many people have died in the name of religion?  Do you think those people stopped to notice how intolerant they were being.  No, they were reacting.  Hurtful acts and words aren’t always loud or  violent.  The energy of meaning gets delivered anyhow.   I was just contemplating how people react out of fear when I found the attached video from The Ellen DeGeneeres Show.

We all owe it to ourselves to ask these questions?  What’s pushing my buttons?  How can I drop into compassion for myself?  How can I learn to tolerate my own fear without taking it out on another?

Only then can we be there for another.  Only then can we create healing in the world.

Strive to love all of yourself today.  The world is not out there.  It is within you.

I had a great first day of the Matrix Energetics workshop.  Technically it’s the first day, but everything started to roll prior.  As soon as I had my flight arranged there was a whoosh of uh-oh.  My issues are in my face, what did I just do and can I back out now?  I’m so glad I didn’t back out.  I’m glad I rode the wave of challenge to get here.

The workshop is great.  Richard Bartlett is a lot of fun.  After a morning of lectures and demos we broke out to practice on each other this afternoon.  The energy expanded quickly.  The feeling of expansion and the waves of energy are so much better than drugs or alcohol, LOL.  We practiced the basic two point technique, then time travel with the two point for releasing.  I needed a nap after that.  Than a good dinner.

I’m so glad I’m here.  It’s been a long time since I’ve been to a healing workshop.  I love the work.  I’m looking forward to so much more.  Stay tuned.