There are so many wonderful choices we can make. Sometimes I don’t know in what direction to go. I feel like a kid in a candy store. When I’m not in alignment, when I’m defensive the choices overwhelm me. I feel stuck and unable to move or make a choice. When I get centered I realize it will all come together in perfect timing. I make my choices based on what feels right for me. The right people show up at the right time. I’m inspired. I feel blessed.

The reality is we get off balance, disconnected, defensive and stressed. The good thing is we can do something about it. We have choices. I just realized I’m jumped from “I” to “we.” It’s all the same. When I say “we” I am including myself. Sometimes when people teach we think they have it, as in their life, all together. They’ve mastered life and it flows like some perfect happy stream. That’s not it at all. Effective teaching comes from experience.

There have been so many times when I’ve learned something. I’ve had an ah-ha moment and the same day I’m given the opportunity to share it with someone else. I take my experience and lend a hand to a fellow life traveler. I’m grateful for the opportunity to help others. I feel blessed by the people who show up in my life to help me and for me to help them.

What a gift. Thank you.

I felt resistance when I saw the first post to change my profile picture in hopes of bringing awareness to violense against children. Awareness is always the first step to healing. Denial allows us to look the other way and pretend it doesn’t exist.

When I Googled cartoon pictures I couldn’t initially remember being particularly captivated by any one cartoon. I felt pretty far removed from cartoons and my experience of them. When I caught sight of Tinkerbell I remembered introducing myself to a new friend as Tinkerbell. As I saw other characters show up on Facebook this weekend it made me smile and remember.

I would certainly never choose to relive my childhood. Like many other peope my life wasn’t filled with happy family memories. We had our hidden issues. My Father was an alcholic. That effected many areas of our lives. My Mother did the best she could. I admired her and thought her an amazing woman. She is an amazing, powerful woman.

Something has occurred to me though. I learned to define being a strong, powerful woman by how much pain I was willing to tolerate. Not long ago a friend of mine expressed his own similar view of what a strong, powerful woman was. He described the women in his family as strong because they tolerated poor behavior from their husbands. They put up with it. They lived through it.

I realize I want to redefine what a strong, powerful woman is for myself. A powerful woman is empowered. She is capable of taking care of herself. She is willing to walk away from someone who treats her poorly. She will not allow her children to be subject to abuse. A powerful woman is not there to “fix” her partner. He can only do that for himself. Allowing herself to be treated poorly only reinforces his behavior. All the money and things in the world aren’t worth it.

As a strong, powerful, empowered woman I choose to be in relationships with those that treat me with respect and give from their hearts. I realize I define how relationships show up by how I love myself. I know it takes strength and self love to walk away.

Children don’t have this choice. They must find ways to cope and defend in order to survive. Let’s start by commiting to our own healing. In our healing the consciousness expands. It’s all energy. Healing our own hurts, defenses and pains makes it more accessible for others. We are all connected. Our separation is an illusion.

This is Why We Changed Our Profile Pictures to Cartoons

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mTcz1Q2EYwk

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In Love,

Susan