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Hold On Loosely

admin — Sat, 02 Jul 2011 17:13:21 +0000

Hold on Loosely by .38 Special, one of my favorites. It came on the radio as I pulled in the driveway this afternoon. It stimulated my thoughts on relationship, makes sense, that’s what the song’s about. It’s a topic that’s important to me. Finding that balance in a relationship where I feel like I have myself, my space, my life, my freedom yet I’m in a relationship. I need my space. I need alone time. I’m an Aquarian, I think that’s part of it. I also pick up a good bit of info through feeling. So part of my alone time is about clearing and cleansing my field and staying in touch with myself.

At the beginning of relationships we have the eros. That wonderful chemical high. We can’t get enough and we feel like we’re floating on a cloud. Then after a few months we adjust. The light dims and certain realities rise to the surface. This is where that heart connection is most important. I thinks this is when you really start to develop the heart connection and you get the opportunity to work on your relationship issues/beliefs.

Hold on loosely. That’s the theme here. Love is a many faceted topic. Let’s stick with one. Ultimately I want a relationship that fits like a glove. I know there will be some custom fitting to be worked out between us. I need to know what I need and be able to state it clearly. Letting someone in yet creating healthy boundaries.

That’s ultimately the challenge. Take responsibility for ourselves and speaking up. Good god you can’t expect your partner to read your mind. Even if you can read each other pretty well, there’s a lot of interpretation that can get messed up. I don’t care how psychic either of you think you are. Our history and personal experiences cloud or color the story. You really aren’t going to know the whole truth and nothing but the truth without a heart to heart conversation. Many conversations, yea and some arguments. Most likely some hurt feelings. It gets messy sometimes. The wonderful opportunity we have in all relationships is the remodeling job on ourselves. You can’t remodel a home without making some mess. I don’t think relationships are any different.

I’ve asked for space before in relationships without saying what that meant. Honestly I can understand why it wasn’t met with a great reaction. I was feeling like I had no time or space for myself and no choices. My reaction was to pull away, my pulling away triggered his abandonment issues. If you aren’t communicating clearly misinterpretation and hurt feelings are inevitable. Even when you think you are communicating clearly misinterpretation arises.

It’s a big topic. I’ll leave it here for now. Hold on loosely, AND communicate well. If that still doesn’t cut it, you might just have to move on till you connect with someone that “gets” you better. Someone that appreciates you, even with your quirks and issues.

Here’s .38 Special and Hold On Loosely

In Joy,

Susan

Prayer of Saint Francis of Assisi

admin — Sun, 17 Apr 2011 03:03:27 +0000

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.

Where there is hatred, let me sow love.

where there is injury, pardon

where there is doubt, faith

where there is despair, hope

where there is darkness, light

and where there is sadness, joy.

O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console;

to be understood as to understand;

to be loved as to love.

For it is in the giving that we receive,; it is in the pardoning that we are pardoned and it is in dying that we are born into eternal life.

Amen.

I’m not one to normally look to prayers like this for strength and inspiration. I must admit right now I’m appreciating this prayer and realizing the connection to the Law of Attraction.

Today I was listening to Dr. Wayne Dyer’s recording of “It’s Never Crowded Along the Extra Mile” I felt a million miles away from where I used to live where it felt so much easier to be positive and the glass was half full. Of course I had my challenges then also. They were different though.

A number of years ago I wasn’t working so publicly. Now I work with many people daily. Now I must put into practice what I thought I knew. Now I have to strengthen those muscles.



Judgement
admin — Tue, 04 Jan 2011 02:17:53 +0000
“It is so easy to judge another, because judgment places us in a position of power.  When we love ourselves for who we are and love others for exactly who they are, there is very little reason to judge.”    from James Van Praagh in the book unfinished business.


 




Intollerance
admin — Sat, 02 Oct 2010 14:36:58 +0000
An Important Message Check out this link from The Ellen DeGeneeres Show.
Healing starts within ourselves.  If we want to heal the world we need to start with ourselves.  We can’t make people change.  We can help to educate them.  Adults just like children learn not by what we say but what we embody.  This is what the world around us teaches us.  What we see is what we need to heal within ourselves.
Let’s start now.  Today ask yourself how am I intolerant.  Where am I intolerant?  When and how am I a bully?  It may seem like outrageous questions.  You may feel indignant or appalled to think you may behave this way.  Remember this behavior can be subtle.  We can have behaviors so ingrained they are unconscious to us.  We react and don’t notice our own behavior.
How many people have died in the name of religion?  Do you think those people stopped to notice how intolerant they were being.  No, they were reacting.  Hurtful acts and words aren’t always loud or  violent.  The energy of meaning gets delivered anyhow.   I was just contemplating how people react out of fear when I found the attached video from The Ellen DeGeneeres Show.
We all owe it to ourselves to ask these questions?  What’s pushing my buttons?  How can I drop into compassion for myself?  How can I learn to tolerate my own fear without taking it out on another?
Only then can we be there for another.  Only then can we create healing in the world.
Strive to love all of yourself today.  The world is not out there.  It is within you.



Take One for the Gipper
admin — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 23:28:40 +0000
I woke up this morning feeling exhausted and decided not to go to work.  I also realized I pushed myself the day before.  It didn’t look like much, but I joined some people for dinner when I was already feeling unusually tired.  I took a 15 minute catnap and could have taken more.  Then I felt annoyance as I went to the event because I didn’t want to go.  I felt obligated.  I didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.  So I’m paying for it today.  Maybe it wouldn’t have made a difference, but the fact that I didn’t really want to go is the issue.  
The real issue is I was avoiding the possibility of someone objecting or feeling hurt.  Why is it OK for me to feel hurt?  Why don’t I think they can handle dealing with their own issues.
I’m sure you’ve heard the saying “Take one for the Gipper.”  That’s the saying I was hearing in my head this morning.  Is that what I think I’m doing?  Being heroic.  Then I had another funny thought.  What would the world be like if we didn’t people didn’t take that shot for someone else?  How would history be different?  I’m not a history buff and I can’t think of any accounts off the top of my head.  Do you know of any?  
How would your life be different if didn’t do things out of a sense of obligation.  What if we all just learned to accept the answers people gave us.  Even when they didn’t do what we wanted them to do.  Can you let something go if someone turns down an invitation without some comment to follow that may induce guilt or a feeling of harassment?  Don’t you love it when it’s meant as a joke?  A joke in disguise.  Not funny.  Did it feel funny.  No, but we politely laugh don’t we.  
The truth is present.  There is an energy exchange with or without words.  If it didn’t feel good, it wasn’t funny.  Which reminds me.  If I do something out of a sense of guilt or obligation the energy I am bringing isn’t pleasant either.  I’m not doing them or myself any favors.  I’m bringing tension.  Hmmmm….what are you bringing to the party?



Energy Conservation
admin — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 11:27:52 +0000
What would it look like if you released you inner conflict today?  What would it feel like?  How difficult do you think that has to be?  Try experimenting with it.  Just set your intention to release YOUR inner conflict for the day and see what happens.





admin — Wed, 26 May 2010 12:10:19 +0000
In your eyes I see myself.
This makes a great meditation with a partner.  Sitting or standing facing each other.  Look into your partners face.  Take turns saying, “In your eyes I see myself.”  
Isn’t it wonderful when love is reflected back to you.  It’s warm and fuzzy.  Life is great and so is your partner.
Oh no what about when it’s not so pretty.  What about when anger and resentment is reflected back.  How are you feeling about yourself?  What’s wrong with them?  
How am I not loving myself?  How can I love myself more?  How can I take better care of myself?  What am I resenting?  What choices am I making? 
Thank your partner.  What a blessing to see yourself more clearly.
In Love 



That which is hidden.
admin — Sat, 10 Apr 2010 03:53:20 +0000
I recently felt frustrated over feeling another health challenge.  I asked myself what the conflict was going on in my body.  After talking to a friend about this he suggested I restate the question to ask “What’s hidden that is creating this reaction in my body.”  I put the question “out there” or really “in there” to my subconscious wisdom and guidance.
I wasn’t giving it any thought today when the answer came.  I didn’t realize it at first until I was reflecting on my day later.  In speaking with someone at work I found that several people I work with were sick.  Two of whom I didn’t realize were sick.
Considering this I realize I was handling it quite well.  I also realize the judgement and lack of compassion I had for myself.  I do a lot to maintain my health.  You can check out my Nutrition, Tea and Bio-Mat sections to see some of my favorite ways to stay healthy.





Laughter
admin — Mon, 29 Mar 2010 11:29:04 +0000
I’m feeling slow this morning.  A little like the fog outside.  I shuffled my deck of fairy cards asking for some help.  I pulled Laughter.
How do you find humor when you feel like you’ve just been through the trenches.  I’m going to turn myself around here by finding those things I feel thankful for.  My dog and cat make me smile.  I’m going to put a smile on my face.  I’m going to remind myself that everything is really all right.  I can have everything I want.  Don’t take it so seriously.  I may look life threatening, but is it really?  Trust.  Smile.  Give yourself a hug.  Smile at everyone today.
Make it a great day.
In Love,
Susan





I’m sorry…
admin — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 22:13:51 +0000
I’m sorry, please forgive me, I Love You.  I was reminded of this phrase today.  As much as I know about eating well, stress reduction, self care…well I slip myself.  It’s easy.  You think…sure I can do that, no big deal.  The problem is when there’s I can do that and that and that and you keep pushing and pushing and pushing.  The Super Hero is in the air.  Bam, she’s on the ground.  Cape tattered and dirty.  Feeling a little dazed she wonders how she got here.  Oh yea, time for a little life review without the near death experience thank you.  
I first heard the story behind the I’m sorry, please forgive me, I love you phrase from a friend.  Then heard it told by Dr. Joe Vitale on his CD series The Secret to Attracting Money.  
The abridged version is a Shaman/Psychologist in Hawaii went to work at an institution for the criminally insane.  He didn’t see the patients, but sat with their files and connected energetically.  He connected to those places within himself that needed to be loved and forgiven.  He was so successful I believe they eventually closed the facility.  
Wow, the power of forgiveness and love.  If we all just work on healing ourselves the world would be a much healthier place.
Here’s to self love.  Be gentle on yourself.  I’m working on it also.
In Love,

Susan